*a grown girl living on her own terms
Astig ~ Awesome. Strong. Amazing. Fierce. Incredible.
Oh my god! Tweet Sering! I’m in love with her book! I haven’t read it yet but the reviews, gosh! I just got to have it!
My boyfriend is somewhere in Manila I wish he finds me a copy… :3
Anyway, here’s Mary Ann Marchadesch’s (Sex and Sensibilities
Literary Editor) summary of the book.
Come on, admit it. All of us, living our lives of quiet desperation, playing our safe little roles in our safe little homes and neat little offices, secretly long for a chance to simply say “Oh, fuck it,” drop everything, and beetle off into parts unknown. We have lots of reasons for wanting to do it—too many responsibilities, too many errands, too many things to keep track of; there’s just too much white noise in our heads for us to even hear ourselves think. All we want, at the very least, is a quiet place just to sit, and be, and figure out just what we are and where the hell our lives went wrong.
(We curb that impulse, though, because we know it’s impractical, and silly, and sometimes downright selfish… and because in this chafingly close-knit society, it’s considered weird.)
“I started the blog because there were things I needed to express otherwise I’d implode. I wasn’t feeling as strong as I would’ve wished at that time, but I could already feel the promise of strength and wanted to give that potential as much energy as I could. I wanted to be strong, so I coined a term for strength; that was Astigirl, from the Pinoy slang for strong, awesome, cool and all those positive things–”astig”–and my gender, which I was only then learning to embrace. So my blog was called I Just Wanna Be An Astigirl–about the journey I was in trying to become astig.”
“I hope that people realize that the biggest stumbling block to our own success is really ourselves. It’s not the government, our partners, children, bosses, parents, siblings, the church, society, or anything outside of ourselves. I hope we can collectively stop acting like victims and start acting like victors. Personal accountability, I have learned, is one of the hallmarks of true power.”
Here are some awesome self-empowerment quotes plastered on her blog:
- “Follow your own path and let people talk.” – Dante
- “To be able to choose the shape of your own life–you sort of must do that, as an act of honor to those who couldn’t.” – Elizabeth Gilbert
- “You’ve got to make choices that make sense for you because there’s always going to be somebody who’ll think you should do something differently.” – Michelle Obama
- “I know that in order to do my job as truthfully as I can–because to me that’s everything–you really have to not give a ****! [about what people think].” – Kate Winslet
- “The only wrong thing, perhaps, is permanently hesitating on the verge of courage.” – Sue Monk Kidd
- “Personally, I believe there’s a limitation to how much politics can change the world–but there’s no limitation to how much individuals can change the world.” – Mariane Pearl
- “We are who we are as much for our gaps and failures as because of our strengths.” – Thomas Moore
- “Hope is that thing inside us that insists…that something better awaits us if we have the courage to reach for it.” – President Barack Obama
- “To do something good, it has to scare you.” – Angelina Jolie
- “Sense of self, and the way one shares it, is perhaps the most valuable and poetic gift in the arsenal of one’s life and craft.” – Sean Penn
- “If we can find ways to love life and be joyful without being wasteful or destructive–that’s what’s important.” – Natalie Portman
- “When I dare to be powerful–to use my strength in the service of my vision–then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.” – Audre Lorde
- “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” – Theodore Roosevelt
I hope I can get a copy of her other book, Wander Girl, too… :3